Friendship is one of those few things that have a huge impact on our life. Just think for a moment. From those ecstatic jumps on qualifying the JEE advance examination, to being a heartbroken deserted lover, or your heroic mischief at the door of your high school principal; you have never been alone! You have shared your joy and pain with your friends. The outstretched hand for that hi-five has never gone unanswered. And as you approach a new beginning of your life in college, you’re in ardent need of friends. In college, getting the company of friends is critical as you are away from home and the big bad outside world awaits you. Having said this much, it becomes even more important that you choose your friends wisely!
Here are the top reasons why it’s crucial to make friends in IIT carefully.
Not all students in IITs succeed; some ruin themselves!
Although it’s the common perception, but not everyone who enters an IIT is destined to succeed. I can assure you that your 4 or 5 years in the campus here will be the best ones of your life, until of course, you ruin them yourself.
There are all kinds of people in an IIT: some who study all night, others who manage academics and leisure perfectly well and even those who spend their days gaming. Friendship is an amalgam of the qualities you chose to share with your friends, and in reality, you’re likely to start acting more like the people you surround yourself with.
When you pick friends in IIT who make poor choices, you could get dragged down fast. When you choose people who inspire and challenge you to be better, you’ll increase your chances of reaching your goals. Hence, surrounding yourself with the right people is crucial!
Friends invariably shape your dreams
Friendships forged in college are different from the ones you’ve had so far. These are people you study with, play with, eat with and in the case of roommates, even sleep with! Soon, college becomes your second home and your friends inseparable! Thus, pick your friends with care—they create the environment in which you will either thrive or wilt. Give everyone the opportunity to be a friend, but share your dreams and goals only with those who value them as much as you do.
They are capable of influencing you drastically
It might surprise you that how much a friend can influence your life in so many different ways. What your friend is wearing can partly determine your clothing choices as well. The opinion they have of someone can become your opinion as well. Their choice of canteens to what they want to do, can quickly become your plans too.
Therefore, it’s of paramount importance that you manage these different influences well and yet maintain the independence to make your own choices for your life. Having friends in IIT who drag you into the things you don’t want to be a part of, can prevent you from availing the other wonderful opportunities that IITs may provide you.
One cannot deny the importance of friendship in life. Friends can bring fun, laughter and an endless number of enjoyable moments. They are there for us when we need someone to talk to and guide us through difficult situations. They help to expand our experiences. Studies show that a healthy friendship makes ageing more enjoyable, lessens grief and provides camaraderie to help you reach your personal goals. True friends are likely to be more concerned about your well-being.
Let me end this piece with a thought-provoking quote:
“Making a million friends is not a miracle; a miracle is to make a friend who is to stand by you when millions are against you.”
People you meet in IITs are indeed the best minds of the country, but not all of them choose the right path. Hence it is very important to carefully choose your friends in IIT. Here are the different kinds of people that you’ll find in an IIT.
That’s all for now, folks! Good Bye and Sayonara 🙂