A guide to developing good relations with teachers:
Picture a student who has a strong personal connection with his/her teacher, talks to the teacher frequently, and receives valuable guidance and praise rather than just criticism. A bright student is likely to trust the teacher more, show more engagement in learning, behave better in class and excel academically.
There isn’t a specific rule book or a fixed set of guidelines to develop and maintain best relations with your teachers. But there definitely are some “Do’s and Don’ts.”
Listening is a very important act in any conversation, be it ‘One-on-One’ or ‘One-on-Many’. And its importance cannot be overstated. You can gain great insights into a person’s life just by listening to them. You shouldn’t interrupt your teachers while they are talking. Try and maintain an eye contact when they address you. Always remain attentive in the class and give importance to every word the teacher says.
Express to Impress
You may have gained knowledge through listening and reading. But it’s not of much worth if you don’t use or apply it. If you express your ideas or opinions to the teacher, they will either offer you a completely fresh perspective or suggest an application or use for your idea/opinion. Make sure the teacher knows your areas of improvement so that you can work together to strengthen that particular subject/topic.
Think Before You Speak
If you are about to give an opinion, it is best to think a bit about it before moving ahead. At least give it a brief thought. Because if you will frequently speak without thinking, especially something contrary to what your teacher has said, things might go wrong. Believe me; there is nothing wrong with disagreeing with your teacher but the conversation should be constructive. And similarly, there is nothing right about thoughtless opinions. Not all teachers are open to suggestions, hence always tread carefully and speak only when required.
Teachers always say that we should not feel shy about asking doubts. But this holds true only during the initial stages. Never ask a question just for the sake of it. Raise a query only when you cannot find its answer on your own. You should not ask too many questions without actually trying to answer them yourself first. Your teacher should not feel that you don’t even try to understand your question. It definitely is not a good sign. Keep the questions to the point and assertive to help communicate better.
Read the Teacher
There is no generalized rule for checking your compatibility with teachers. You must read them individually. It’s not like reading an academic book, but more about careful observation. In fact, you should inculcate the habit of reading everyone in your life. It can tell you a lot about their nature, what makes them happy or what upsets them and what they like to talk about. It goes a long way to develop an understanding with that person which becomes very useful while fostering a healthy relationship. You should talk to them about some common interests. And avoid discussing the things that might upset them, if they’re not very important. Always remember that reading does not mean judging.
Reciprocate – Don’t Repeat Your Mistakes
Always reciprocate your teacher’s kindness, and don’t just pretend. Keep this primary objective in mind. After all, it is their precious feedback that is going to help improve your academic performance. A person is not really a teacher if he/she doesn’t point out your mistakes. And once you know and understand your mistakes, the best way to acknowledge their effort and improve yourself is by not repeating them again.
Be Frank, Not Blunt
Never shy away from casual or breaking-the-ice conversations. For example, if you spot your teacher outside school/college, what would you do? Well, go ahead, greet and talk to them. Don’t stop yourself from opening up conversations. Remember, you’ve read them. So, you know what to talk about. And they’d love it! Importantly, there’s a fine line between being frank and being blunt. Try not to cross that. Don’t speak inadvertently or rudely to them.
Just like you use hard disk drives for the backup of your data, you should also make smart notes for future references. Now, how would this help you in building a positive relationship with your teacher? Well, you’ll not only improve in that area or subject, but also show that you give high regards to your teacher’s instructions. Once your teachers know that their suggestions make a difference, then they’ll always enjoy answering your questions.
When teachers have a good rapport with the students, everyone in the school benefits. Imagine how much students stand to gain when their teachers share ideas, respect them, and contribute to a positive academic environment. It all begins with strong relationships laying the foundation for important achievements.
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