Have you noticed that some children from the get-go are more confident and extroverts, while some are timid and shy? This can be attributed to many factors, one of which is the parenting styles that their parents employ. Let us learn about the four distinct parenting styles and how they affect the growth and behavior of the children.
Parents are the first and best teachers in their children’s lives. How children interact with their parents will dictate a major part of their lives. Thus, parents must make sure that their parenting style is best suited to the nature and the potential of their child. The child’s growth and development will depend with how you raise and discipline them.
Development psychologist Diana Baumrind first identified the four distinct parenting styles by identifying the behavior of the children. Let us learn about the four distinct parenting styles and their impacts.
Authoritarian parents are highly demanding parents. They demand from their children a high level of achievements across all fields. They believe their kids should follow the rules set by the parents, no exceptions. They demand blind obedience from the children.
They also believe in enforcing the consequences of disobedience. And rather than discipline the child they favor punishments. The point is not to teach the child to make better choices but for them to regret their actions.
Usually this parenting style comes with many drawbacks. The children may learn obedience, but they never learn to think for themselves. There is a good chance that the children become aggressive or angry and even possibly hostile.
2] Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parents also have high expectations from their kids, but they do not disregard the input of the kids themselves. They are more responsive and kinder than authoritarian parents. In fact, they make great efforts to ensure that their kids grow up in a positive environment.
Even while disciplining their children, they explain their actions and the reasons. They try to teach children the consequences to their actions. So while ultimately the parents are completely in charge, the kids feel heard and understood. This makes the children happy and well-rounded adults.
3] Permissive Parenting
Such parents will set the rules, but rarely enforce them on their children. And when the children disobey or disregard the rules, there is usually no discipline or consequences for their actions.
Permissive parents tend to only take actions when a serious problem arises. In daily routine, they do not interfere with their children’s lives too much. Their role is more of a friend than a parent.
So usually children with permissive parents do not learn to deal with authority figures in their lives. They also tend to struggle in school since they are not sufficiently motivated. They may also suffer from self-esteem issues
4] Uninvolved Parenting
As the name suggests, these parents do not take an active role in their children’s lives. In fact, they do not know what is happening in the kid’s life. They do not make them follow any rules or discipline them at any stage.
So the children do not get any guidance or knowledge from their parents. They are basically raising themselves with no help from the parents. Sometimes this neglect is unintentional. But intentional neglect can lead to mental and emotional issues in the long run. Children of uninvolved parents often have self-esteem issues as well.
Statistics show that children of authoritative grow up to be the most successful and well-adjusted adults among all the parenting styles. However, it is to be kept in mind that all children are different and have different needs. So parents need to modify their parenting styles to best suit their own children.