Taking a drop year – convincing your parents
It is said that hard work never kills anyone…but why take chances! If you have been preparing day and night for the entrances and if your scores have still not matched up to your expectations; if you feel physically and emotionally drained; if you seem to have lost your inspiration and motivation to reach your goal; then your mind is telling you to take a break. In some such situations, taking a drop year is the best alternative. But how do you go about convincing your parents for that? Find out in this article.
(A) Ask yourself if it is worth it: As with any important decision, first ask yourself if what you are about to do is worth the risk. Taking a drop year off has its own advantages and disadvantages. So first and foremost, weigh both and then come to a decision…whether it is worth to take the year off and whether it will serve the purpose that it is supposed to serve. Think with a clear mind and then proceed. Unless and until you reach a conclusion on whether you really want to do what you think you should do, stay put. Just as clear waters reflect one’s image, if your heart and mind and clear and correct about the decisions that you make, then your parents will definitely see the reflection.
(B) Sit down and explain yourself: Second most important thing to do is to communicate your needs to your parents. Even the strictest of human beings always yield to their children. So don’t panic. Talk to your parents on your motivation behind taking a drop year. If your entrance scores have not been on par, explain to them that you are drained and that you can definitely perform better if you take the year to rest and start again. No parent would force their child to keep pushing forward when they lack the energy for it. Moreover, parents can be extremely motivating. Their experience with life has taught them several things that we may not know. Hence it always helps to have a heart to heart chat and explain to your parents about your true situation. Once you do this, you will definitely feel a lot less burdened and lot more motivated to move forward.
(C) Have a plan: A life without a plan is not always the best thing. Few may not agree but let me tell you this out of my own experience. If you don’t have a plan in place, after a certain period in time, it is easy to loose your vision of what you want from life. Always plan ahead on what you want to do and where you want to be. Life should be lived with a purpose and never randomly, since we have only one of it. So if you decide to take a break, plan on what you need to do to use the time constructively. Once you come up with a nice plan, tell your parents that this is what you want to do and this is how you wish to spend your time. Parents tend to be very understanding under dire circumstances, most often than we give them credit for.
(D) Be Sincere and Honest: Honesty has always been the best policy! Taking a break or a dropping a year just because you feel completely stressed out is alright, as long as you follow A, B & C. However, wasting and whiling away the time and spending countless hours on social media will not help further your cause. If you genuinely feel the need for a break, do learn how to use it well. Most of us drop a year to improve our entrance scores, so give yourself the proper space to study without strain. Do not do something just for the sake of doing it but be sincere and honest about it. Sincerity goes a long way in convincing yourself and others and your parents will definitely feel happier to see you healthy and happy.
In the words of Arnold Schwarzenegger “Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” Be strong, Be successful. Good luck my friends!
Take a look at how you can plan your drop year here.